my instance is broken because a python server that i told to open on a specific port opened on its default port, AND opened a proxy to redirect from it.
this is dumb, i hate this, the python server is handling half of the requests instead of my instance, who the heck is coding this thing?
anyway that's the reason i haven't been very active the past few days, i just wasn't seeing much activity, and i thought i had networks issues which was weird because i'm neither using amazon nor cloudflare.
my issue was just jupyterhub being a dumb python program